No One is Perfect

Hey y’all. Happy Saturday!

Lately, a few thoughts have kept popping into my head that i felt like i needed to share and put out there. I thought maybe y’all could relate and you know me, i love to ramble lol.

So let’s just dive right in.

I think it’s so easy to fall into the comparison game. Or judging other people and how we perceive them or their lives. We see people on social media, or even in real life, and think about how PERFECT they are and how PERFECT their life must be. They have the perfect job, boyfriend, life, family, body, what have you… We think that they have it all together… and then we start to question ourselves. And our lives. And it can make us feel like crap.

Honestly, you never really know what anyone is going through. The person with the perfect body could be struggling with an ED. The person with the perfect job could hate going to work every morning. The person with the amazing boyfriend could be feeling lonely… The person that is always SO HAPPY could cry themselves to sleep every night… you just never know.

It’s easy to post on social media when everything is going amazing and perfect. But it’s not always easy to post when you’re struggling. And that’s normal and that’s okay. Just something to think about.

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As someone who is “fit”, i can definitely relate to this. Some days i struggle with the comparison game. Sometimes i struggle with stepping on the scale (honestly, if i know i struggle with this, i just don’t weigh myself all together… know yourself and what’s good for your mental health). I’m not always perfect with counting my macros or always getting to the gym … Sometimes i don’t want to post on social media bc i feel like my body doesn’t look its best… I can question myself and my progress, blah blah…

i never want other people to think that i “have it all together” because i don’t. And that’s okay..

Everyone struggles. No one is perfect. And it’s important to realize this. You can’t expect your journey- in life, fitness, career, personal, whatever- to be the same as everyone else. Your journey is 100% your own. And that’s the fun part. Don’t let your skewed perception of others’ lives make you feel like crap about yourself. If you follow someone on IG that leaves you feeling like crap about yourself or your progress, HIT THAT UNFOLLOW BUTTON! You (and I) don’t need that kind of negativity. Follow people that are real and honest and don’t make you question how AWESOME you are.

I guess the point of these rambles is to tell you that no one is perfect. You can’t judge anyone based on their social media posts or how they act when you see them out and about in real life. We are all going through things and that’s just a part of life and that doesn’t make you any less awesome. We are all a work in progress.

So yeah, can anyone relate to these rambles? Do you struggle with the comparison game? Self doubt? Judging others based on what you see on social media?? Let me know in the comments and share how you are going to go about changing this negative behavior.

Personally, i am going to get back into journaling, focusing less on social media and focus more on my life and the goals that i want to accomplish.

Thanks for reading my rambles and talk soon,

Tuesday Rambles

Hey y’all. So I’m coming at you with a different kind of blog post today… i don’t know if i would even call it a blog post… it’s more like a serious case of word vomit of my thoughts and feelings but we are just gonna rock with it.

I was at the gym today… chest day… and i just got an overwhelming feeling of stress anxiety. Some things in my life are going really great.. i have a (second) job interview on Friday for a new “big girl” nutrition job- which is super exciting (PLEASE keep your fingers crossed for me) and it’s also the holiday season which i love.. i have family coming to visit in a few weeks which is great, i haven’t seen them in forever and I am super excited. So a lot of positive things are happening right now.

What sucks is when you have a hard time appreciating the positives because you’re too busy focusing on the things that aren’t going right. Aka my current situation.

For me, the huge negative I’m facing is that I’m fighting with my friends. A good friend who i care a lot about. I hate fighting, i hate drama, and i hate knowing that I’m the reason this person isn’t speaking to me. I still see them  and it’s awkward, and it’s uncomfortable, and it honestly causes me a lot of anxiety. Like hurry to the bathroom so no one sees me crying, kind of upset. Everyone tells me to “give it time, space, blah blah” and yeah.. i get that. But i have a hard time just letting things run their course. I messed up so i want to fix it. And i can’t. And that sucks. Anyone else feel this way? I know i can’t be the only one. Sighhhh.

So how do i not focus on the things/thing making me stressed out and focus on the positives? Good question. Idk. I really should get back to journaling consistently, cutting toxic people out of my life, and focus on myself and my goals and finishing 2017 with a bang. How there is only one month left in the year is literally blowing my mind. #WhereDidTheTimeGo?

Oh, also happening in my life… well just happened… is I’m a brunette now. Never saw that coming did ya? Lol well me either, to be honest. I’ve always loved myself with blonde hair… idk, it just feels like “me”. But literally the thought of going brunette popped into my head a few days ago and yesterday i was like ya know what, let’s do it. No tears were shed and so far i really like it…. my hair was in much need of some TLC and it looks a million times better. Success. #NewHairWhoDis

So idk, yeah i know this blog is all over the place… it’s kinda just a lot of thoughts and rambles for me to figure out how I’m feeling and maybe some of you can relate. There feels like there is a lot on my plate right now. I struggle,we all struggle, and honestly, I’m just trying to figure things out.

I have also been contemplating the idea of doing BLOGMAS again this year… or maybe even the 13 Days of Blogmas… because i don’t know how realistic it is for me to publish a new blog every single day.. But feel free to comment below if you would like me to do Blogmas or if you would be interested in reading. Last year, i did a giveaway and that was super fun. So let me know.

So yeah, thanks for reading my rambles about a million different things thrown into one post.  Please like this post if you can relate and subscribe to PBandLaurenKelly.. more posts will be coming your way soon, i promise.

Happy Tuesday, friends! XO,

Where Have I Been? Life Update.

Hello, my friends! It has been a minute… or two… or five… or uhh, two months actually since i have blogged. That is awful lol. I can’t believe it has been that long but the time is flying by. I swear it was just my 26th birthday like uhhh… last week. But nope, that was over 4 months ago now. Crazy. *Mind blown*

So, i don’t really have a game plan for today’s post. It is probably going to turn into a whole bunch of rambles so i hope ya’ll are okay with that. I’m just going to take some time and update ya’ll on what’s been going on in my life.

The most exciting thing that has happened in the last month or two, is that Morgan and I finally moved into a new apartment. As some of you know, or maybe you don’t, my move to NOLA was just a wee bit unexpected. Because of that, that meant me, moving into Morgan’s small, studio apartment. Not exactly ideal for two 26 year old females with a lot of clothes and only one closet. Finally, the stars aligned and we moved into a two bedroom apartment in the same complex. Packing, moving, unpacking, is never a fun time but our place is slowly coming together. We still have some furniture to buy, decorations to hang but slowly but surely. (Pause. Where do ya’ll buy your furniture and home decor? Keep in mind, we’re ballin’ on a budget. We love cute decorations that don’t break the bank, so leave your decorating tips in the comments!) Perhaps i’ll show y’all some pics on here once everything is hung and put where it needs to be. So yeah, that’s very exciting for us… i finally have my own bedroom with a door, people! #Blessed haha.

I’m still working as a server at the Cheesecake Factory. We have gotten some new cheesecakes in the last few months… the Celebration Cheesecake (think funfetti cake and cheesecake had a baby), the Pumpkin, and the Pumpkin Pecan cheesecake ( a pecan pie and pumpkin cheesecake hybrid). ALL so delicious. I’d be lying if i said i haven’t had several pieces of each of these the past few months lol, don’t judge me. I just love cheesecake okay?? I have been saying that i was going to start searching for a new job, in my field of study (Nutrition), for about 2.5/3 months now and i haven’t…. until today. I took the time today to update my resume and apply to some Nutrition related jobs here in NOLA. Yay, adulting! I just got complacent and comfortable working at Cheesecake, but it’s time to start looking at what’s next. I’m going to make it a priority to keep looking for a new job and if things go the way i hope, i’ll have something new by the end of the year. My fingers are crossed.

What else has been going on? ….hmmm. One thing about me, you may or may not know, is that i can be a bit of a homebody. I always say that if people ask me to go out, or do something, i will say yes. Usually, i say no or come up with some reason, or excuse not to go. Well, for the last month or two, i have been working on actually saying “yes” to going out and socializing. I’ve gone on a couple dates, gone out for dinner and drinks with friends, spur of the moment things, and i have actually had fun. *Gasp*. Who knew, right? Haha. I feel like in the past, i have used sticking to my diet or sticking to my gym routine, as a crutch, or as an excuse, to be antisocial. I can’t complain that i don’t have any friends or that i never do anything if any time some one asks me to go out, i say no… Anyone want to go out and do something?? Haha.

In regards to my diet and training, i am still (mostly) tracking my macros and going to the gym 5-6 days a week. Ish. Some weeks, ill make it to the gym a little less because of working doubles at Cheesecake and that’s okay. I have been adding more food into my diet since my “mini cut” for Vegas which has been great. Some days I don’t hit my macros and that’s okay. I’m a lot less stressed about not hitting my numbers and the number on the scale than i have been in previous “off seasons” . Yes, I feel like it is important to be consistent with my nutrition and food choices, but if i go over my fat macros for the day because i had pizza watching football, than that is fine by me. The world will not end. I feel happy with how my body looks right now, I am confident, and I am eating good food.. what’s not to love about that?

What else is going on? I think that’s pretty much it… It is now officially “Fall” however, it is still hot AF down here in NOLA. It was only a mere 90 degrees today. I don’t mind though lol, i despise the snow and cold weather. The basic bitch in me loves ALL THINGS pumpkin spice so my taste buds are happy. It’s football season again, which has me so excited. (Go cowboys!) I scheduled a hair appointment for October which is very badly needed so that’s also great news for me.

And yeah… that’s about it. That’s my life right now. With only 3 months left in 2017, I am hoping to finish off the year making some positive changes. That also includes FINALLY getting back into a consistent blogging routine. I know, i know, i say this literally every time i blog and then you don’t hear from me for months at a time. *face palm*

So with that being said, What types of blog posts would y’all like to see? Nutrition, fitness, food ideas, recipes, favorites, more blog posts from @mbkellyy? Please leave a comment and let me know, because i would love y’alls insight. 

Thanks so much for taking the time to read my rambles and my little “life update”. You’ll be hearing from me again soon, i promise.

Talk soon,